By Eileen Wacker
We are now in the throes of back to school. I can now see I will survive summer vacation, but fall is at our doorsteps and all the pressures of balancing work, school, marriage and health come back to life. I face so many challenges as a married mom of four, trying to build a company. I’m having dreams of back to school nights, sports and activity sign-ups and orientations, electronics policing, earlier enforced bedtimes, and getting up and on time. Then we get into our routine. We just never have a drama-free week. Forgotten meds, wrong shirt on field trip day, wrong clothes/shoes for after school sports. It’s a constant game of cat and mouse.
When my phone rings and certain numbers crop up, I’ll cringe but answer. Because I am a Mom. There are too many “little catches” I make that cannot be explained in an instruction letter. I am not a creature of habit – I am a “catcher” by habit. I catch everyone’s problems and stresses. I am the absorber of stress. And when I answer the phone, there is always an issue requiring immediate attention.
“The Mom’s Code”
I’ve heard of a “man code” many times. Okay I get it, there are some unwritten rules that should be adhered to if you are a stand-up guy. I, for one, am a stressed-out working mom and I believe a “Mom’s code” could help us all.
An important issue: working moms versus stay-at-home moms and could “the code” apply to both. I was a stay-at-home mom for 6 years. I left the work force when my oldest, at the time three and a half, needed open heart surgery. Then we ended up moving to Seoul, South Korea when we had four children, aged three months to five years old. So I was a stay-at-home wife and mom and did not know if I would ever go back to the workforce. I was wildly busy trying to keep a sane life, living a foreign country. Now, back in the US for the past several years I have been trying to establish a business and I work non-stop as it is just getting off the ground.
As a stay-at-home mom I wore a ponytail most days because I could squeeze in a rinse off shower but blow-drying took too much time. And I was in better shape because I got to work out. Working moms really struggle with making enough time to work out so they are constantly trying to shed that extra few pounds. Stay-at-home moms have to shed a few pounds because we eat our kids’ food.
Moms’ stress shows up as bitten and chipped fingernails and roots that need to be touched up. I guess the bottom line is stay-at-home and working moms are stressed out and largely about the same things, so we can all agree to one code?
Life is Challenging, Kids are Non-Stop, Let’s Unite and get Real! •
Let’s All Agree to:
•Limit the Mama Drama
•Save Her When She’s Drowning
•Abide by a Non-Competition Clause
•Get a lot More Wired as Moms
•Nourish our Souls with Girls Night Out
•Band Together against Mom Tormentors
•Use our Mates to help us remember the Women We Are